Self-Love: Some Thoughts, Benefits and Free Tips For You My Dear
If only I could tell you how loved you are… In a way that would get through any disbelieve you might have in your silly little head… My dear, I know life can be a challenge – also a hard one, but living life without self-love is so super hard.
We all need love and you might focus a lot of energy on loving other people — from friends to spouses to children to parents to grandparents to you know who it is.
But where does your love come from? You might expect it to come from the people in your life you care so much about, but you can’t control those peoples love and it is not their job to fill you up – it is your responsibility. And if you don’t take ownership over yourself and your energy you can wind up exhausted, stressed, disappointed etc if you rely only on external sources for love.
The good news is that there is a way to fuel yourself and your life with the love you need to live in a much kinder, relaxed, energized and harmonious way where you don’t rely on other people to do it.
That’s where self-love and self-compassion comes in to serve you. All you have to do in the first place is to acknowledge your own responsibility and then take ownership over you as the precious and valuable being you are.
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise Hay
Not only is it important to love yourself to fill in those life giving gaps from giving so much to others, but self-love can actually also provide health benefits for you.
Aside from making your self-esteem stronger and raising your feel good vibes, self-love can benefit your life in many other ways, too:
- Greater Life Satisfaction. Greater life satisfaction is associated with people who practice self-love. Appreciating yourself helps you appreciate your life. When you hold yourself in high esteem you tend to have more enjoyment in the now and a more positive attitude toward your future.
“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness” – Dalai Lama
- Motivation for Healthy Habits. Self-love can motivate you to adopt more healthy habits and take even more loving care of your physical self. When you get your love vibe high you start to express your love for yourself by doing even more things that make you feel & look your best. You simply just start to improve yourself because you care and value all parts of you.
“Self–care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others” – Parker Palmer.
- Better Mental Health. Mental health issues are more likely to resolve quickly — or less likely to develop altogether— for people who love themselves. Self-love can keep you from getting lost in your own head and going down a path toward negative thoughts and feelings. People who find themselves struggling with addiction or other mental health issues often need to develop a stronger positive relationship with themselves, and find that self-love can help lead them out of their disorders. Self love makes you mentally much stronger.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving” – Kim McMillen
- Reduction in Stress and Increase in Performance. Self-love reduces stress, lessens procrastination and reduces performance anxiety around deadlines. Without those last minute overwhelming doubts about yourself, you can complete projects etc with more of your good energy, rather than beating yourself up.
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.” – Yogi Bhajan
- Better Able to Deal With Adversity. People who practice self-love rebound from adversity faster than those who wallow in self-loathing. You can’t control what life throws at you, but you can manage your own response. People who feel good about themselves handle though times or even life crises better and move on to better times faster.
“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life” – Jean Shinoda Bolen
Being hardcore in loving yourself creates a stronger trust in yourself, a stronger believe in yourself, an blooming inner joy and sparkling appreciation you can bring with you wherever you go in life.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde.
Self-Love: Free Tips on How to Love Yourself Even More
Recognizing the value of self-love is the first step to improving your quality of life. Adding more self-love to your life is the next thing you need to accomplish. Here are some free tips to help you:
- Value Your Own Beauty. Don’t wait until you lose weight or get the perfect hairstyle to love yourself. You can love yourself now by changing your focus on what’s important: You are beautiful and you are alive. And if you find that hard to believe, try to start with one small feature and decide to love that part of you first. It doesn’t have to be perfect according to social constructed ideas of beauty, because it’s already uniquely you. For an example you may start to love your eyes because they have that unique coloration and sparkle of you.
- Praise Your Body. If you don’t have your body you are metaphysical or nonexistent if you believe everything is over when we die. I think that proves how important your body is and how patience it is with your ego which it constantly has to deal with (no stress it will become a good and loving way when your self-love improves). Like your unique beauty you can also start with one small body part like for an example loving your feet because they have carried you through most of your life and they just support you and continue to hold you up.
- Change Your Self-Talk. The little voice inside your head that can drag you down when you make a mistake must be controlled and changed. You probably wouldn’t talk that way to someone you really love, so why say it to yourself? Replace that negative self-talk with something positive and up-lifting. When you make a mistake, try an encouraging phrase like, “There are no mistakes. All is well. I learn and grow for the best of all. I love you (your name). I truly deeply love me and I take good care of myself.”
- Pamper Yourself. When your feet get wet in the rain, go home comfort yourself and put on dry clean socks. Please be more aware of your physical and mental condition and do things to nurse yourself. Have small breaks during the day where you for example look at the sky and wonder how beautiful it is, see a video clip that makes you laugh, smile to yourself in the mirror and say “I love you”. If you push through 24/7 you will sooner or later break down to stay there for a while. These are small ways you let yourself know that you and your well-being are super important.
You can learn to love yourself and reap the benefits in your life. Making a conscious effort to improve your relationship with yourself can have many rewards. These were just some of them.
The Cards I have invented is here to support you whenever you want or feel a need to be supported to improve your self-love. Please feel free to allow yourself to feel good and loved. If you find it challenging know that I support you in every little step you take to improve yourself for the benefit of you. Why? Because I believe in a better world and when you improve the entire world is improved too.